Personal Assessment of Intimacy in Relationships (PAIR)
Schaefer & Olson‚ 1981
سنجش شخصی از صمیمیت در روابط
1. My partner listens to me when I need someone to talk too.
2. We enjoy spending time with other couples.
3. I am satisfied with our sex life.
4. My partner helps me clarify my thoughts
5. We enjoy the same recreational activities
6. My partner has all the qualities I’ve ever wanted in mate.
7. I can state my feelings without him/her getting defensive.
8. We usually ‘keep to ourselves’.
9. I feel our sexual activity is just routine.
10.When it comes to having a serious discussion it seems we have little in common.
11.I share in very few of my partner’s interests.
12.There are times when I do not feel a great deal of love and affection for my partner.
13.I often feel distant from my partner.
14.We have very few friends in common.
15.I am able to tell my partner when I want sexual intercourse.
16.I feel ‘put-down’ in a serious conversation with my partner.
17.We like playing together.
18.Every new thing that I have learned about my partner has pleased me.
19.My partner can really understand my hurts and joys.
20.having times together with friends in an important part of our shared activities.
21.I ‘hold back’ my sexual interest because my partner makes me feel uncomfortable.
22.I feel it is useless to discuss some things with my partner
23.We enjoy the out-of-doors together
24.My partner and I understand each other completely.
25.I feel neglected at times by my partner.
26.Many of my partner’s close friends are also my close friends.
27.Sexual expression is an essential part of our relationship.
28.My partner frequently tries to change my ideas.
29.We seldom find time to do fun things together.
30.I don’t think anyone could possibly be happier than my partner and I when we are with one another.
31.I sometimes feel lonely when we’re together.
32.My partner disapproves of some of my friends.
33.My partner seems disinterested in sex.
34.We have an endless number of things to talk about.
35.I think that we share some of the same interests.
36.I have some needs that are not being met by my relationship.
شرح سایت روان سنجی: این ابزار میزان صمیمیت در روابی میان شرکای زندگی را در پنج زمینه : صمیمت در هیجان (صمیمیت عاطفی)، صمیمیت اجتماعی، جمیمیت جنسی، صمیمیت فکری و صمیمیت در سرگرمی می سنجد.
(1) Emotional Intimacy – feeling closeness‚ ability to share feelings‚ and be supported without defensiveness. (2) Social Intimacy – having common friends and social network.(3) Sexual Intimacy – sharing affection‚ touching‚ physical and sexual closeness. (4) Intellectual Intimacy – sharing ideas and experiences about life and work. (5) Recreational Intimacy – sharing of experiences‚ common pastimes and involvement in activities.
اعتبار:
emotional intimacy (alpha 0.75)‚ social intimacy (alpha 0.71)‚ sexual intimacy (alpha 0.77)‚ intellectual intimacy (alpha0.70)‚ and recreational intimacy (alpha 0.70).
نمره گذاری
1=Strongly Disagree‚ 2= Somewhat disagree ‚ 3= Neutral‚ 4= Somewhat disagree‚ 5= Strongly Agree
چگونگی دستیابی
منبع برای آگاهی بیشتر
Schaefer‚ M. T.‚ & Olson‚ D. H. (1981). Assessing intimacy: The PAIR Inventory. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy‚ 7(1); 47-60.
Moore‚ K. A.‚ McCabe‚ M. P.‚ & Stockdale‚ J. E. (1998). Factor analysis of the Personal Assessment of Intimacy in Relationships Scale (PAIR): Engagement communication and shared friendships. Sexual and Relational Therapy‚ 13‚ 361-368.